You don't know what an EWiL is?

So I have used the term "EWiL" in several places, but sometime I forget to say what it means.

So let me tell you a LONG tale.. it begins on a dark and stormy night...
Where to start... With backstabbing? Lies? Deceit? Am I slightly ticked off?*nods* yeah Let's start with once upon a time ..*fades into flash back* My beautiful niece and nephews... most adorable little monkeys, gawds I have such memories of them, some so sweet I cry when I think about what their mom has done to them now.My brother is a nice guy, just bad taste in women and a lack of a backbone. He helps make great looking children though, don't ask me how. Just his first waste- er.. wife.. just slightly bitter about her.. How do two people like that create three beautiful children? *shakes head* I just don't know.

Either way, we used to be decent More Than Aquaintenance But Less Than Friends. I thought we were friends, I really wanted to be friends. But hindsight really is a bitch...

Let the story begin...Anyway.. flash back.. Ex-Witch-in-law (EWiL) has remarried, and to a nice guy, a Coastie! I thought, "Score! She will have a guy that will help her grow up more while providing security!" (turns out, she not only had him cowed, pun intended, but she has some precious accessories of his in her purse) . I was soooo wrong. But for the most part, I think this was the best time. Yes she defrauded the Oregon DSHS (did I hear you gasp? I am serious, this woman defrauded the DSHS, but right now, I can't bring legal proof, but it is in the works!), among other crimes, but the kids were happy. That is all that matters to me.

We all got along great. Did we agree with her using the kids as a weapon against others, like her mom and my bother? Not a chance in hell. But as long as we were in the picture, the kids got to see everyone. Then EWiL's husband, The Coastie was diagnosed with a form of Luekemia (one of the kinds they can cure, don't ask me which one). As they lived in OR, and his treatments were in WA, I knew it was a matter of time before they would ask if they could live with me in my 2-bedroom duplex. I was prepared for the day they asked me. I told them that they and the kids could live with me during his treatments, but not free. (Is that heartless? Was it? hmm) I told them that a: one, ONE SIMPLE RULE: NO DOGS (actually it was pets, but 'dog' will simplify things in later entries...) and it would be $200 a month, to be paid as they could. This was because it was them, and the three kids.. in a furnished place. (Btw.. that meant 3 adults, 3 children in a 2 bedroom duplex, I gave the adults the master bedroom, i had the "guest" room, and the kids slept on futon in living room)

**Ponders**

No, wait.. it wasn't heartless. They had money. They bought a Gator/ Razor mule type four-wheeler. They also put money down on an $800 puppy that hadn't even been born yet. But they couldn't afford any school activities for the kids. They could afford a Wii, but they couldn't pay rent. They could afford accessories ( in the $800 o $100- area) for their Quad, but where was this money coming from? Don't tell anyone, but they set up a "Money for the Coastie's Med Bills" account at a bank and asked for donations from family and friends, shhhhhhhh! It's a secret where the money came from! I really feel sorry to the people whose money paid for the new toys, thinking it was going to a charitable cause.I didn't make much of a fuss, as this agreement was working. The kids got to see their dad on the weekends, regularly, my parents and I got to see the kids everyday, and we were the typical family. EWiL and Coastie would play games with us (looking back, I realized they didn't have that many people to visit up here... mmmm ) There was stability in the kids' life. That is what matter. Then I went on vacation.

*sigh* I told my dad on the way to the airport to watch it, I thought EWiL would break the one rule (remember the rule? *points up* NO DOGS. And remember the unborn prepaid puppy that was paid with money they 'didn't have'? *nods* you can see where this is going). I come back from my trip, and sense a tension between my parents (who are my landlords by the way) and my guests. Slowly I put pieces together.

While I was gone, EWiL and Coastie broke the rule. The ONE SIMPLE RULE. Blantantly, knowingly, and purposely. They planned it. *sigh* I mean, is it such a harsh rule, to not have pets in the house? NO DOGS. It must have been. I am such a mean person, aren't I? They broke it. Worse, they put the kids in danger by doing so. EWiL and Coastie left during the day, not saying where they were going. My brother dropped off the kids and no one was home on my side. He waited with the kids on my folk's side till late, calling EWiL and asking when she would be home. "Soon, just put the kids to bed, they will be fine." The kids were 8 & 6. I am gone. Sure, let's leave the kids in the house by themselves, for an unknown amount of time. Great parenting skills, don't you think? My mother sat outside the door of my side for two hours till she saw them (EWiL and HUbby) pulling at like 11? at night.. and then went home, didn't even wait to greet them.. I guess she (mom) was pretty upset, but then again EWiL has pulled this stunt before. Anyway. The next morning, when mom was gone, EWiL asked my dad if he wanted to see the puppy. *nods* that is right.. did you put 2 and 2 together?

EWiL and Coastie drove down to OR, to get the prepaid puppy that had finally been born and was ready to leave. Didn't tell ANYONE. They were okay with leaving the kids alone on a school night, to go get a stupid expensive dog (remember that Coastie is having medical treatment for his leukemia? That is friggin' expensive! and I guess his insurance wasn't paying anything..so they said) Their excuse later to me? "We would have lost our money". umm.. so? you have more to worry about than losing the money. A dog is only going to generate more expenses.

Hell, she didn't apologize. Mom had taken ignoring EWiL and Coastie, she was that upset. Yes, I was too, after all, she disrespected my house, my rules and me. Then EWiL pulled a low-down dirty stunt: she tried to use the kids as a weapon to get Mom to forget and forgive (becuase as anyone can plainly see, EWiL is the victim here, right? Huh-huh, yeah right, but really, in her own little world, she is the victim). The twins' birthday was going to be at our house, but because of EWiL's actions, very little preparation had gone into the plans. So when I asked about the plans to EWiL, she responded "I don't know, your mom hasn't talked to me." (Okay, really? Mom has to plan your kids' birthday party? Grow up!) I informed her, that Mom wasn't planning on talking to her for a while after the stunt. EWiL gets upset, saying that I dont' know what it was like to be cooped up in the car for 2 hours with a crying dog. Again, really? You are right, I don't know. The reason why? Oh yeah, I would not be stupid enough to knowingly break a rule, leave my kids unattended to go pick up some 3rd rate bred dog that I can't afford right now becuase of the bills piling up! Let's just say, I was so mad, I went to my room- er.. the guest room where I was staying in, grabbed somethings and went over to mom's. I vented to her, thoroughly pissed. When the option came up, I choose to evict EWiL. The notice was given to EWiL and EWiL only. No other names were put on the notice. Just her. Within 24 hours she had to be out. She packed up the kids, Coastie and her stuff, and left.

The worst part? She started to tell the kids that it was Mom's fault the party was canceled. That we didn't love the kids. That we didn't care. You see the pattern? Not once did she think about saying, "Mommy broke the rule, and tried to use you guys to get my way, so we have to move out." Wait, that isn't the worst part. This is the worst part. THIS COULD ALL HAVE BEEN AVOIDED. All she and Coastie would have had to do is TELL US. A quick call, "Hey, we need to pick up the dog or we lose the money we have invested. Could we keep the dog overnight, so I can take it to my mom's first thing in the morning?" I wouldn't have said 'no' because she would be asking for ONE NIGHT. My folks wouldn't have said 'no', because she would be asking! All of this, could have been avoided with a little thinking on her part. And Coastie's. I mean, come on! A responsible person would have thought that! I would have. And if there was a "no" given? I can't even think of an answer here, becuase there would not have been a 'no'. So now the sad part. I haven't seen my niece and nephews since October 2008. I didn't go to my brother's wedding this month because the kids were be there, and EWiL was be there too. The kids are so poisoned by EWiL, that they will not be comfortable around us anymore. And that is what hurts the most.

EWiL, if you read this, I hope you are happy. You took from those kids some of the best times of their lives, because of your self-centeredness; You won. We will send all their gifts to my brother, but until they are ready to have us back in their lives, we won't interfere anymore. Gods know if I were to suddenly drop by their dad's house, you would try taking custody, just to be spiteful. We NEVER spoke ill of you to the kids. We were in it for the kids. We put their best interests at heart, even though you have shown that only your interests are first in your life. Congratulations. R.i.H.